While this blog skips around and looks for its identity for this month at least, while I am participating in the Ultimate Blog Challenge, Wednesday will be Writing Wednesday, where you are encouraged to write and share about you, your husband, and your life, both before he left and after. It’s your story write what you want.
For many widows we want our husbands to be remembered. We want others to know about him. We want his awesomeness shared. Best way to do that is to tell how wonderful he was. Oh, I know he wasn’t perfect. At least I assume your man wasn’t perfect, mine certainly wasn’t. I have no desire to share his flaws though. You can share your man’s flaws if you want, there are no rules and by telling his few shortcomings you will paint a more complete picture of the man you loved and who loved you. The choice is yours.
Wednesday’s will be about writing about our man. Sharing him with the grandkids that never got to meet him, sharing stories about him his children don’t know, and sharing adventures his siblings don’t know.
How does it work? However you want. You can write a short piece and post it in the comments. You can write and post it on your blog or Facebook page. You can be more private and write it in a notebook for your family only. It doesn’t matter how, just what. Share some of the goodness that was the man who loved you and you loved.
Each week I’ll post an idea for you to work with if you want, or you can go off on your own tangent. This week is about his passion. Yes, of course he loved you and your life. What else did he enjoy though?
For my husband it was pigs. Yes, he loved those little oinkers that provide us with tasty bacon and ham, not to mention a few other cuts of pork.
Another passion was kids, he loved his job as an Ag (agricultural) teacher and helping students find a way to excel. He especially loved helping them in the show ring. He loved it so much he continued helping students after he retired.
Someone asked him one time what he was doing at a stock show when he was retired and could be doing anything.
He replied, “Now I get to concentrate on the fun part, helping the students.”
Our oldest granddaughter is involved with animals. Although she is only 11 and in 4H she has several sheep and goats that she shows. Her daddy wasn’t our “pig” kid and prefers the goats and sheep. In fact, his wife raised sheep when she was in high school.
My husband wouldn’t care what animal the she showed. The fact that she is in 4H, involved in animals, and showing would have made him smile. That’s why this time of year is bittersweet as I go to the fair to watch our granddaughter show and miss her grandpa being there to “coach” her. Watching her carry on the tradition is heartwarming.
What did your husband enjoy?
What was his passion, in addition to you?
Are you involved in his passion?