Discarding the Christmas Tree

I gave away my Christmas tree and don’t plan on replacing it. It started before Christmas when I decided to reduce the Christmas  collection, more about that in another post.  The story of my Christmas tree is really more of a saga. However, here’s the short version:

When we were first married we had no tree. We had no money and we weren’t home through the holiday. He was in college, and school closed so we spent time with family.

Later we had kids, and a real tree. That lasted a couple of years before he bought a fake tree. I asked why.

He said, “Because you always want the tree up early and it’s too dangerous to have it up that long with lights on it. This way you can put the tree up when you want, and leave it up as long as you want.” Now that’s love.

Many years, and a couple of trees later, the taking down process included disposing of the current tree.

“What are you doing?” my husband asked.

“Throwing it away. It’s falling apart and does’t look good.”

“Oh, I guess that means I need to remember to buy a new one next Christmas?”


“You want a real one?”

“Nope. Going to decorate without a tree next year.”

He gave me that look husbands have when they don’t really believe what they’re hearing.

For several years decorations at our house did not include a tree. It’s really not that hard to decorate without a tree.

The year he died my kids wanted me to have a tree. So, I got a tree. In my grief I didn’t pay attention, I thought I was, but no I was not. I know this because the tree that came home with me was huger than huge.

As I assembled it, I knew, it was too large. With no time to make an exchange,  The assembly is another story for another day. Eventually the monstrosity was sort-of put together and shoved in a corner.

A couple of years later a friend and I traded. She took possession of that thing, and I came home with a nice little easy-to-assemble four foot tree. I used that tree for several years, and loved it.




But, it’s time had come.

Time for that little tree to leave my house. It went to live with my son and his family, they have three or four trees in different rooms of their home. The little tree will be comfortable there. I am happy. It’s all good.

Next Christmas I may get a live tree, or not.

One thing I know, the decorations are more for me than anyone else. After all, how many people come to my house and see them? Not very many. So that’s why the decorations should be something I enjoy and makes me smile. They are after all, for me.

About Nita

Quilter, writer, speaker, mom and grandmom. I enjoy making quilts for my grandkids, and other children. I especially love hearing and sharing quilt stories with others, that's how the book came about and this blog will continue to share quilt stories and how God works with quilts to comfort and teach us.
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6 Responses to Discarding the Christmas Tree

  1. I am sorry for your loss! And I understand your tree story. I haven’t decorated with a big tree in probably ten years. I have allergies and have never been able to have a real tree, but I realized that even the fake trees were a problem. So I bought 3 or 4 small ones, and I decorate with them in different places throughout my home. My son is a teenager, and when we open gifts, it’s with a coffee table covered with gifts and a small tree in the middle.

    • Nita says:

      In truth, I kept a couple of small trees to be placed wherever. My sister has 14 trees (at least I think) that are smallish and funky and fun. She places them in different places around through out her house as you do. Growing up we always had a fake tree because of allergies in the family. Thanks for stopping and sharing. I will be interesting to see what I do next Christmas.

  2. I like this, decorations should be for you and good for you for doing what you want. My Mother doesn’t have a tree and that’s fine by us!

    • Nita says:

      My kids were okay with us not having a tree until that year. They said the grandbabies wouldn’t understand how Santa knew where to put the gifts. Hmm, The grands were 4,5, 6 months and 3 months. I thought the 4 & 5 year old would only be interested in their gifts, not how Santa knew where to put them. But, at the time I didn’t have it in me to argue. Glad you don’t give your mom grief about her lack of a tree.

  3. Shirley Lowry says:

    So happy to see a post from you — I have been having a really hard time with aging — back myself into corners because I can’t seem to balance my time — my money and several things have been difficult — promised myself I will be more realistic in 2018 — have you been in touch with Gloria? Maybe 2018 will be when we can have that lunch.

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  4. Stella Scott says:

    I have no tradition right now with a tree. It comes and goes. Some years I do, some I don’t, but when I do it’s always real. I adore the scent of fer.

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