For many widows, finding a way to honor their husband, and observe his birthday puts them in a quandary. In the past I’ve handled the issue by making every effort to ignore the day. Because, for me, David’s birthday follows the date of his death too close. That ignoring never worked too well. However, it helped that we had two grandchildren, who are siblings with birthdays the same week as their grandfather’s. So, I tried to focus on them and enjoy the celebrations of their special days.
This year however, I’m adding something new. I will still celebrate with the grandkids. Why not? Time with two of the grands, their parents, cake, ice cream, and an enjoyable day. No reason to skip their days. However, I am also adding random acts of kindness to honor my husband.
A few months ago while doing research for some revisions for my book, Beyond the Grief, I came across this blog post, here, by Tyra Damm about how she, her children, and friends, observe the days surrounding her husband’s birthday by participating in random acts of kindness. Each year her goal is to have the number of random acts of kindness equal her husband’s age.
It sounded like such a good idea, I’m adding her plan to my husband’s birthday observation.
Although David often said he’d never live to see 65, he didn’t even come close. Cancer took him just short of his 54th birthday, so I figured why not celebrate what would be his 67th birthday with 67 random acts of kindness by his birthday, September 12, or in the month of September. It will also help me zoom past the anniversary of his death, Labor Day and September 5.
The year he left this earth Labor Day was September 5, so both of those days signify his departure to me.
To accomplish 67 acts by his birthday means five to six acts per day. That might be a little tough to pull off since most days I stay home and don’t interact with a lot of people.
I have others to join in the giving fun. With any luck, I’ll have some cards that can be downloaded and printed available by September 1. However, that’s questionable since I came up with this idea at the last minute.
Now I’m inviting you my reader to joion in the fun and help celebrate the life of a man who taught and helps kids all of his life. In the next couple of days I’ll be posting ideas for acts of kindness.
You can also do it for the people who perished on 9/11. Whatever reason you choose, I hope you join. Leave a comment here, or on my facebook page, Adventures in Widowhood, about your acts, and inspire others to join in.