Posted in This and That Thursday, Widow's Stories

Widow Fighting for Justice for her Deceased Husband and Others

 

Finding a new normal. Creating a new life. Both are part of a widow’s reality. What happens when the past can’t stay in the past? What happens when the widow must repeatedly revisit the time of her husband’s death? Can we help her?

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via Cincinnati Enquirer

That is the reality for Cheryl Cole-Candeleresi, Cincinnati, Ohio. She’d been married only two years to her high school sweetheart, David Cole, when he was murdered in 1974. Two men were convicted and sentenced to death for the murder of the police officer and National Guardsman, making Cheryl a widow.

In the late seventies, the Ohio Supreme Court ruled the Ohio death penalty unconstitutional. At that time, all those Ohio inmates who had been sentenced to death had their sentences commuted. Since Ohio did not have a “life sentence without parole” option then, the men automatically became eligible for parole hearings.

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http://www.cincinnati.com/story/news/2017/02/08/wife-slain-cincinnati-officer-s-always-my-mind/97647424/

  The first time the men convicted of killing the police officer came up for parole, no one from David Cole’s family, the police department, or the prosecution’s office was notified. Because Cheryl didn’t know about the hearing, she didn’t testify, and with 50 letters sent in on behalf of the first man, he was released. Later the Supreme Court simply said that a mistake had been made in not notifying those concerned with the case.

Once Cole’s widow, learned about the parole hearing and the first man’s release, she began her campaign to keep the other man behind bars. Every few years she has to repeat the process.

When an inmate has a hearing and parole is denied, the board must then set a timeline for the next appeal. The longest time allowed is ten years.

The last time the inmate came up for parole; over 9000 letters were sent in urging the parole be denied. In addition, Cheryl and others testified in person. Retired Police Lieutenant Steve Kramer believes the more letters the parole board receives, the more likely the convicted man will stay behind bars and have his length of time before the next hearing extended. Cheryl and others will testify before the parole board on February 13 and his hearing will be in March.

She has remarried, has children and grandchildren. She said, “I’m lucky to have a family that supports me through all of this.”

To help support Cole-Candeleresi and the police of Ohio, go to the parole board page http://www.hcpros.org/inmate/roland-reaves?modal=true&iid=A14082700&parole=Roland_A._Reaves,  and leave a comment encouraging the parole board to both deny his parole, and give him another ten years before he can apply again. As Cheryl Cole-Candeleresi said, “we need justice for David and safety for everyone else.”

 

 

 

Here I usually ask my readers to leave a comment with their opinions. However, today, I’m urging you to go to the website above, before February 13, and encourage the Ohio parole board to deny this man’s release.

 

 

 

The original story can be found here: http://www.fox19.com/story/34418885/fallen-officers-widow-wants-convicted-killer-to-stay-behind-bars

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Posted in This and That Thursday, Ultimate Blog Challenge

State Fair Field Trip

October is national field trip month.

Did you take field trips when you were in school? I remember a few. Most of them were supposed to be educational in addition to entertaining. Not sure how much we learned when we visited the bakery. But, the smells of the vast loaves of yeast bread  remain in my memory files.

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Maybe that’s why the food I gravitated to yesterday was the soft pretzel.

My field trip yesterday included a trip to the fair where I watched my granddaughter show her sheep and goats.

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Afterwards I meandered through the exhibit halls where the 4H and FFA students projects were on display. Amazed, as always, by the skill and creativity of the students.

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Like this patio table made by a group of FFA students (I forgot which chapter)

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And this unique bird feeder made by one student. I wonder if this design deters squirrels from the bird seed smorgasbord?

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And this holiday sign made by the Okemah FFA. I wonder if I could talk them into making me one? Wouldn’t it be pretty at night with lights around it?

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Of course I had to take a picture of the tractor on display since my son collects them. No, the students didn’t build this, but they did restore it.

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As I was leaving I ran into my adopted granddaughter who had been there showing her pig. I’m sorry I missed her showing, but it was great seeing her and getting my hug.

On my way home I stopped at yoga class, no pictures of that and went by to visit with my son and his family for a few minutes.

All in all a great field trip day.

 

When was the last time you took a “field trip,” just for fun, or to learn something?

Is there a place or event you’d like to visit?

What was the last field trip you took?

Posted in grief healing tools, holidays, This and That Thursday

Embracing Fall

I found red leaves on my walk. That can only mean one thing, Fall is coming.
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Too bad I’m a summer girl. I was married to a summer guy, funny how that works. He was asked several times why we didn’t move closer to Oklahoma City or Tulsa.
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His reply, “I’m as far north as I’m going to get. It gets too cold up there.” We lived (and I still live) in SE Oklahoma, there is nothing “north” about it.
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However, we do have changing seasons, with the accompanying cold weather. The red in the foliage is nature’s way of giving fair warning
If, like me, you are a summer person and are trying valiantly to hold back fall, I can tell you it won’t work. 
Instead of fighting it, let’s embrace it. Let’s find our own way to celebrate the coming of fall, and then of course, winter. Let’s try some fall-related activities.
Since my husband’s birthday is September 12, here are 12 ideas for you to try this month.
1.  Make a “fall-flavored” wreath to welcome the season.
2. Use one of your empty flower containers to build a fairy garden.
3. Try something outrageous, a blue, green, or purple lipstick. Have some fun. Color your hair. Dance on your way into the store, or while you’re in the store.
4. Make a pot of soup, or stew, it’s the perfect fall dish. Plus, it’s easy and you have a meal for several days. You can freeze the left-overs, or just eat soup/stew until it’s gone.
5. Plant some fall flowers to replace the hot-weather ones that have gone the way of summer.
6. Plant some fall vegetables.
7.  Make an indoor herb garden. If you live where frost (and winter) isn’t an issue, make an outdoor herb garden.
8. Go for a hike, a bike ride (the kind you pedal, not the kind with a motor), or a slow leisurely walk and enjoy the sights, sounds and smells of the incoming season.
9. Take a picture (or ten) of something that says “fall” to you
10.  Read a book, or a short story.
11. Call a friend you haven’t talked to in a while.
12. Go to a fair. It’s state fair time in many states, as well as county fairs. Find one and enjoy the sights, sounds and smells of a fair.
 
These ideas were inspired by Brooke at the Pink Lyme blog. Check her September Bucket List.
As the month progresses I will be doing as many of these as possible. After all as grandma used to say, “idle hands and the devil’s workshop.” Staying busy will help me skirt the blah feelings that begin to appear this time of year. When you try one of the activities, blog about it and share your link in the comments below, or on our Facebook page, Follow Your Rainbow. If you don’t have a  blog, just post about the activity here in the comments.
I’m looking forward to seeing how you embrace autumn.
Are you a “summer” or “winter” person?
How do you welcome the changing seasons?
When is your most “blah” time of year?