Six Ways for Widows to Celebrate Their Children’s Father

Father’s Day is Sunday, June 17. Did you know? Of course you did. There are advertisements everywhere, newspapers, magazines, television, the internet, stores have signs everywhere suggesting items as the perfect Father’s Day gift.

What do you do if you’re a widow, your children’s father is no longer with you? What do you do to celebrate him and the day? How do you and your children observe the day?

There is no one “right” answer, every widow, every child does what is right for them. If you’re floundering, here are six ideas for you.

1. Plant something in his honor. It can be something to grow for years, a tree, a rose bush, his favorite perennial plant. It can be something for this season only, a plant that will produce flowers to be cut for your home, vegetables or fruit, something that will honor him. While it’s late in the season, I will be planting tomato plants this year. They won’t be in a garden, but in containers next to my front porch. He will be a part of the planting in multiple ways.


2. Celebrate the fathers in your family who are still living. I have been known to buy cards for my sons and son-in-law and send them. After all, they are the fathers of my grandchildren. I do wish them a happy Father’s Day online and send them a text. You could include your own father and father-in-law if they are still living, mine aren’t. You can also include others, your siblings, siblings-in-law, cousins, uncles, your well wishes can extend as far as you want.

3. Share the love. Buy the cards you enjoy, write a short note of well wishing, and donate them to a nursing home, hospital, or hospice. Check with the facility first to be sure they are on board with delivering the cards, and to determine how many you need.

4. Start a memory book for your grandchildren. A journal with pictures and stories about their grandfather to help them know him. If they are old enough, ask your grandchildren to tell you about a memory they have of their grandfather.

5. Write a short piece about a father-child moment between your husband and your child. If you have multiple children you can write one involving all of the children, as well as a specific time for each child. These don’t have to be huge life-changing moments, just a snippet in time involving the child and father. For one of my son’s there is the time he (son, age 4) cracked the back window of the pickup. You can put several stories together in a little book, or just send each child the story involving them.

6. Donate flowers, or a plant to your church in his honor.

I hope these ideas help you take the stress off the day and you’re able to enjoy your memories of him as a dad on this day.

What do you  do to observe/celebrate Father’s day?

Did you have a tradition for the day when he was here?

Have you shared memories of him as a dad when your children were very young with them?

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Three Movies



Day eight of the “You” challenge, which means we are down to three films. I’ve thought about this a lot as I’ve been driving. For some reason this week has been full of travel.


Most of the movies I watch are on the television since I’m not big on going to movie theatres. Trying to think of movies to list, and finding a common thread was difficult. But I decided to use my husband as the connecting thread.

First up, LOVE STORY


The first movie we saw together at the movie theatre, LOVE STORY. With Ali McGraw and Ryan O’Neal. I had to read the description of the movie to remember most of it. My memory was of walking to the theatre. It was one of the few times we had money to spend. Most of our dates involved free activities. I’m going to say that time, and not the fact I was sitting next to my boyfriend is the reason I didn’t remember Oliver (O’Neal) finished college, or that he and Jenny (McGraw) got married.


I might be old, but I’m not old enough to have seen the 1939 classic starring Vivian Leigh s Scarlett O’Hara and Clark Gable as Rhett butler at the movie theatres. No, I saw it at home, on our television, which is what makes is special to me. When our local television station aired the show, my husband helped me get our kids bathed and in bed in record time. He poured me a glass of soda (back then I drank pop) and fixed us some popcorn before the movie started. After it came on if one of the kids needed something he handled it so I didn’t have to miss any of the movie. I enjoyed the movie, the story, the acting, the costumes, but mostly I enjoyed the pampering from my husband, which gives that movie a special place in my heart.

And finally, movie three: COAL MINER’S DAUGHTER


COAL MINER’S DAUGHTER, with Sissy Spacek and Tommy Lee Jones is the story of country singer Loretta Lynn’s life, based on her autobiography. We went to the movie with a group of teachers at their annual end-of-the-year dinner. Most years we just went out to eat then everyone went home. That year some of them wanted to do more, so party animals that we all were, we went to the movies. That movie was in 1980, it was the last movie we saw in the theatres. Like I said earlier, not a big movie goer.

What about you? Leave a comment about your movie experiences.

Do you go to the movies often?

What type of movie is your favorite?

What was the last movie you saw?

This post is part of the ultimate blog challenge.




Thankful for Wonderful Waitresses

Thankful Thursday

Today is Thankful Thursday. Most of us, have our “normal” blessings. Or is that just me?

I’m always thankful for things like, family, friends, a place to live, food to eat, etc. However, for Thankful Thursday, I’ll go a little past the normal. At least until I change my mind.


I am thankful for friendly, helpful waitresses. Two friends and I have a standing lunch date at a particular restaurant.  We go so often we have our own table.  All of the waitresses there are great. In fact, if we get a new waitress the experienced ones explain the procedure to her: 

  •   There will be three of them (if one of us hasn’t arrived yet.)
  • They prefer that table because it has better light and is a little quieter
  • They want rolls, no jalapeño cornbread.
  • Don’t forget the honey.
  • They drink root beer, diet soda, and water with lemon. (Although, the water one, me, sometimes adds another drink.)
  • They will want dessert later, not right away, don’t close out their ticket until after they’ve had dessert.

Yesterday’s waitress was new. She described the vegetable of the day, El Paseo Potatoes. She called it a baked potato with cheese and jalapeno pepper. Good try, it was baked, but as a casserole type dish rather than a baked potato with cheese and peppers.

My friend wasn’t sure about it, she doesn’t care for cheese. “Is there very much cheese on it?”

“I don’t think so.” The waitress thought for a moment before answering.

“I can always take it off if it’s too much.”

“No, the cheese isn’t on top, it’s mixed in and it’s already made so they can’t do one with less cheese. I’m sorry.” This should have been my clue that it wasn’t a “baked” potato, but potatoes that are baked.

I was more concerned about “heat,” I don’t do spicy.

The waitress suggested we go ahead and order, and if we don’t like it she could exchange it. My friend ate hers, it wasn’t too cheesy although she probably won’t be ordering it again.

I had to send mine back. It was just too hot/spicy for me. I’m a wimp when it comes to those flavors.

I am thankful for the waitress who took the time to describe the dish and then make arrangements to return it if we didn’t like it.

Most waiters and waitresses are great. Every once in awhile we’ll get one that isn’t, for whatever reason. Those people help me appreciate the wonderful wait staff I often have.

Thank you to the waiters and waitresses for the job you do and the smiles you share with your customer.

 Almost forgot. It’s still National Letter Writing Week. I’m writing a note to our eating establishment, complimenting their wait staff.  

Who will you write a letter or note to today?

Do you have a favorite eating place?

Do often get the same wait person? 

Have you ever been a wait person?

Please leave a comment and share your thoughts.

Linking up this post 12 with the Ultimate Blog Challenge.





Full Service Gas Stations Still Exist and Add to Road Trip Adventures

Yesterday on #Monday Blogs, Leslie at Nurture her Nature  posted about their encounter with a full-service gas station. Which reminded me, when my cousin/friend Teresa and I drove to California this summer we encountered one of those friendly dinosaurs.

We were driving along enjoying the scenery and lack of civilization in New Mexico when Teresa noticed we had about a fourth of a tank of gas left.


Now here in Oklahoma, and especially up where she lives near Oklahoma City, a fourth of a tank is no problem. We can drive for hours, because we know gas stations are plentiful and near.

However, in New Mexico we’d already driven past two exits that didn’t mention fuel. In fact as we neared those off ramps we wondered why they excisted. We couldn’t see any signs of civilization. We figured they must lead to houses, and maybe businesses out of sight. We opted not to be adventurous and follow them.

Finally, a sign boasting of fuel and food at the next exit. This was good. Not only did we need gas, but her son Jared was hungry. The gas station was closed, and looked like it had been for several months if not years. The road to it was torn up and closed. The stop wasn’t an entire loss.

We dug in the ice chest and snack bag to feed our famished male and enjoy a snack ourselves.

Back on the road we all three kept a sharp lookout for a gas station. Finally, we saw a sign for one. We pulled into the small station, and all of us wondered if there was any fuel in the tanks. Before we could get the nozzle off the tank a young woman joined us.

“How much?” she asked.

“Fill it up.” Teresa answered.


She graciously allowed me to take a picture of her pumping our gas. She told us her parents owned the station and she come into “town” to  help them out.

Just before we left I noticed a sign in the window, “bathroom $2.00 for non-customers.” I wish I’d taken a picture of that.

Do you remember the last time you used a full-service gas station?

Have you taken a road trip?

What is your favorite snack for a road trip?


If it Doesn’t Work, Try Changing It – New Menu Plan


If the quote is correct, making and posting a menu list isn’t getting the job done. Now I’m trying something new. Instead of posting what I hope to eat next week, I’ll post what I ate last week. Maybe that will help me be more organized in my eating. Maybe it will give you some menu ideas. Maybe we’ll all be healthier.

Hey, a girl can dream can’t she?


I had some chicken legs and thighs in the freezer. I’d planned on making chicken noodle soup. Except, no noodles. Instead, I barbequed the chicken legs in the slow cooker and baked the thighs. I was too lazy to prepare any veggies to go with them, so on Sunday I had a protein filled meal of barbeque chicken legs. Supper was a green smoothie.


Since I baked the chicken thighs yesterday, that was lunch today. Since I had some spinach in the fridge, I used it as a lettuce. Spread some mashed avocado on a tortilla shell, top with spinach and chicken. At least I got some veggies in with the protein (meat) today.


Had my staples taken out, so my chauffer, and friend, and I ate in town for lunch.Had smothered pork chops, mashed potatoes and corn. I had ordered green beans, but the waitress made a mistake. No matter, I like corn too. Even had a piece of coconut pie for dessert. Afterwards I was fuller than full so only had some roast for supper.


Yesterday I’d put a pork roast in the slow cooker before heading off to the doctor. Since I’d only had a little bite of it for supper yesterday, on Wednesday I dived it up into  four serving sizes. Three went in the freezer, I’m getting better.

For the last piece of roast, I heated it up, cooked a potato and some cauliflower, mashed them together, added some green beans. Perfect lunch. supper was a green smoothie.



Tried making a potato patty with the leftover cauliflower/potato mash, it was edible, but it didn’t look like I wanted. Added some sausage and a couple of fried eggs. Breakfast for lunch. Supper was another green smoothie.


My doctored up goulash. I added green beans, corn, and cheese, to the sausage and pasta. Made so much it was both lunch and supper.


Went to town to pick up meds and milk. Had a fast food lunch of a fish sandwich and root beer. For supper I tried a single serving of Marsha’s Mix. I don’t know what it’s really called, my friend Marsha came up with it upteen years ago. I wanted some refried beans to go with it, but didn’t have any so made my own. They were okay, they’ll be better next time made with my fresh cooked beans. I tried the cauliflower rice. Not bad, especially since I added tomatoes and peppers to it. Added half an avocado and a corn tortilla. The tortilla would’ve been better if I’d toasted it, but it worked.



Son sent home leftovers for me so I wouldn’t have to cook. He said he was cleaning out the refrigerator. Whatever, food for me that I just have to heat up is always welcome. Especially since both he and my daughter-in-law are excellent cooks. Lunch for Sunday was chicken and dumplings and brown beans.

That was my food for the week. How about you?

What did you eat?

What is your favorite meal?

Are you a fan of leftovers?

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Menu Ideas using Foods in Pantry or Freezer

This week’s menu uses only foods and ingredients I have in the  house. For a variety of reasons I won’t be doing any grocery shopping. Also, since I’m going to have the same thing for breakfast every day, I see no need to list it. Especially since I don’t even do a variation, it’s oatmeal, yogurt, chia seeds, milk and maybe fruit. Next week I will try some variations, and even take a picture. Maybe.

In the meantime, the menu for this week is;


  • Lunch: BAS Wrap (Bacon, avocado, spinach)
  • Supper: A bowl of cereal because I was too lazy to cook anything.


  • Lunch: Salad
  • Supper: Roast with celery, pepper, carrots and mushroom. No potatoes, don’t have any russet potatoes and I’m not sure about sweet potatoes in  roast. I’ll leave that experiment for another day.


  • Lunch: Bacon/chicken/avocado wrap (I baked chicken thighs Sun, and have one left) with sweet potato baked fries
  • Supper: BarBQue chicken, also left over from this weekend, celery and carrots


  • Lunch:  Brown beans and skillet cornbread. I haven’t cooked a pot of brown (or pinto beans) in what feels like forever. Why not now. Might add some spinach to go with it.
  • Supper: Breakfast for supper, one of my favorite meals. Going to try mini-quiche, or as I call them, egg muffins.


  • Lunch: Fajitas made with the roast from Tuesday with cauliflower rice and refried beans made with the beans from yesterday.
  • Supper: Roast wrap with avocado and spinach (using roast from earlier in week.)


  • Lunch: Grilled pork chops with sweet potatoes and bell peppers.
  • Supper: Fried rice using cauliflower and last of the roast


Goulash with corn and green beans (I know I’ve listed it several times, but I still haven’t managed to prepare it, so Tuesday I will)


Who knows what I’ll eat today. Most likely I’ll clean out the fridge, and graze on whatever is available. Start again next week.  


What’s on your menu this week?

The cauliflower rice and egg muffins are new food dishes to me. What was the last new food dish you tried?

What new-to-you food would you like to try?