Sunday Afternoon Tea – When Technology Tries to Bite

Original plan – do a Facebook live and post it here afterwards.

Reality – Video looks like television reception from the sixties. No snow, but blurry and every changing picture. If it doesn’t improve it’s coming down.

There’s a lesson there and they remind me of some old sayings:

There’s more than one way to skin a cat. 

I know, yuck. Right? Who wants to skin a cat. Of course, the sentiment is, there’s almost always another way. That was true in this instance. I couldn’t do the Facebook live with my phone, for some reason the internet kept stopping. Even when in the house next to the router. Will have to find the answer to that problem. In the meantime however, I figured out that a Facebook live could be done on my computer. Found another way to skin that cat.

If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try again.

How many times have we heard that saying? That’s what happened today. Tried the phone Facebook Live, which I’ve done in the past, three or four times and it kept freezing up. Tried it on the computer and it seemed to work, although it starts out a little (lot) pixelated. Next Sunday will try again. Try, try, again.

It’s not over until it’s over.

The saying used to be different. But it referred to a robust woman singing a final tune. I tried wording it a little nicer. The meaning is the same, don’t quit until the round is over. Even if I hadn’t been able to do the Facebook Live today, as long as I kept trying I would eventually get it figured out. So, whatever you’re working on, don’t quit too soon.

I’m sure there are other lessons in today’s attempt, but three’s enough for now. I am posting the video below in the event it clears up when you click on it.

Have you tried something new recently?

When did you last do, or try to do, something that didn’t go as planned?

What adage would you add to the three I shared?

Sharing with the Ultimate Blog Challenge.




Six Things I Learned This Month


What did I learn this month? Before I look share some of the tidbits from my Book O’Edcuation, a couple of observations from the last two days. Not necessarily something I learned, but somethings I was reminded. Like there was a reason for the Boy Scout motto, “Be prepared.” Like

  1. Being prepared means less worry. Had I written a couple of blog posts ahead, today’s post would be no problem. Just post an already written on.
  2. When sick, even foods I’m not fond of taste good. I had made a Fall Harvest Soup last month, it wasn’t my favorite cooking attempt. However, since it wasn’t all bad, I went ahead and froze serving size portions. Good thing, it’s what I ate this weekend.
  3. I can prepare soups, even if it isn’t “soup” weather and freeze it for days when it either is “soup weather” or I just don’t feel like cooking.


Now, some of the things I learned this month in no particular order of importance or happening:

  1. Ink does not flow well in cold weather. I bundled up and tried to do my morning writing out on the front porch. It’s harder to read than normal because of all the ink skipping. Lesson: write indoors when it’s cold out.
  2. Learned a friend of mine is going to receive an award from a group where we are both members. More information on that when she receives the award. Don’t want to upstage the presenters.
  3. Stories work best with 8 or fewer important characters. A writer friend shared that information from one of her mentors. I can’t think of a television show, movie, or book that had more than eight important characters. Maybe THE HELP.  I’d have to go back and check.
  4. A candle warmer (have one of those?) makes a good tea warmer. Okay, or coffee warmer. That’s what my writer friend Jennifer McMurrain uses hers for, she’s the one who gave me the idea.
  5. I learned how to put 4 squares, or rectangles, on a page for a sheet of pictures, or cards. The explanation will take a whole blog post. I was so excited I could get my affirmation cards on one page to make a printable. It’s not ready yet, but hey, I made progress.
  6. This is important. If I let my licorice tea steep for the full 5 minutes it has a more “licoricey” taste than if I cut the steep short to the 3 minute minimum.

Sometimes there was a lesson, sometimes not, either way I added to my storage of information. The problem is, the storage file is stuffed, so for every new thing I learned, or old idea I remembered, according to someone (I forget who) somewhere (I forget where) we forget twice as much as we learn.

Does that mean the files in my brain will soon be emptied of useless information, and make it easier to retrieve the valuable stuff that’s already there, or gets added? Doubtful. Sometimes important information falls out of my brain and has to be reinserted.

Oh well. At least I learned some new information this month. How about you?

Did you learn anything interesting this month?

Do you purposely set out to learn or  do you just accept new information as it occurs?

What is something you learned (or re-learned) recently?

Once more, I am joining the Ultimate Blog Challenge.






Twelve Classy Insults from the Past

A lot of insults have been flying around on social media in the last few days, weeks, and months. Most of them boil down to, “if you don’t agree with me you’re an idiot.”

This got me to thinking about a time when insults, public and private, had a little thought behind them. In fact, my dad used to say that the best insult was when the person didn’t realize they’d been insulted. So, for your insulting pleasure, I bring you, twelve of my favorite insults from the past, insults with style. Enjoy. *s*


1. “He had delusions of adequacy.” – Walter Kerr

2. “He can compress the most words into the smallest idea of any man I know.” – Abraham Lincoln

3. “He has no enemies, but is intensely disliked by his friends.” – Oscar Wilde

4. “He is not only dull himself, he is the cause of dullness in others.” – Samuel Johnson

5. “He is a self-made man and worships his creator.” – John Bright

6. “He has the attention span of a lightning bolt.” – Robert Redford

7. A graceful taunt is worth a thousand insults.” – Louis Nizer

8. “I have never killed a man, but I have read many obituaries with great pleasure.” -Clarence Darrow

9.        “I’ve had a perfectly wonderful evening. But this wasn’t it.”-Groucho Marx

10.        “They never open their mouths without subtracting from the sum of human knowledge.” -Thomas Brackett Reed

11.        “He has Van Gogh’s ear for music.”-Billy Wilder

12.        “He uses statistics as a drunken man uses lamp-posts… for support rather than illumination.” Andrew Lang


Linking up with the Ultimate Blog Challenge today. While insulting someone is never nice. Sometimes we just can’t keep our mouths shut. In those cases, if we can at least insult nicely, maybe feeling wouldn’t be hurt, friendships dissolved, and arguments started. Share your thoughts.


Did we used to be nicer when we insulted someone?

Do you have a favorite way of letting someone know when you’re unhappy with their actions?

Are any of these a favorite for you?



Getting to Know You – Ten Day “You” Challenge

 Shalini, who I met through the Ultimate Blog Challenge, has been doing a 10 Day “You” challenge. I’ve been following and thinking, ‘what a great idea.’ Which is why I’m following her lead.

10-day-challenge-photoToday is day one (or ten, since the challenge counts backwards) and secrets. I’m not sure they’re “secrets,” but here are ten things not everyone knows about me.

1.           I am the mother of three, and the grandmother of six. I don’t think that’s any big secret. But you might not know it.  They are seldom all in the same place at the same time, but they were last summer and I got a picture to prove it.


 3.  Growing up, my family moved, a lot. Often just changing houses in the same town. When changing houses, we also managed to change school districts. I went to nine different schools. And swore when I got married I would live in one place. Hmm, In the first four years of our marriage my husband and I moved eight times before we stayed in the same place for 26 years.

    4. I am involved with Quilts of Valor and love making the presentations. Even if tears are involved.

thomas-leonard-and-wife-with-his-qov    5. I am a little bit of a rebel, again, no big secret. I like to do things just a little bit different.

    6.  In the past couple of years my hair has been in part, purple, pink, and green I don’t do unusual color anymore, because it seems everyone else, of vintage age, is doing it.

    7. I’m not a fan of online shopping.

    8.  My dream house is a cottage style house with a beach and the ocean on one side and a garden with a patio on the other side. Of course, with someone to take care of the garden.

    9. I love notebooks and journals and have several. They are very hard to pass up, and they’re not expensive. Much as I love buying them, I don’t like writing in them because then they are “messed up.” It takes me several tries to actually use a notebook or journal.

    9.  I was not a fan of the Beatles and became a fan of the Monkees almost in self-defense. After all what self-respecting teen-age girl of the sixties did not like the newest, coolest, rock and roll?


  10. I know how to shoot, I haven’t gotten my concealed permit yet. Mostly because I don’t want to. I’m happy knowing how to handle the gun, and knowing I could use it if needed. When I was in high school a friend and I would go shooting a couple times a month. I don’t shoot as much now and I just have a pistol, although I prefer a rifle. Which is funny to me because in high school I shot a pistol. Go figure.

george-and-nita-in-pickup-with-riflesThere you have it. Ten secrets that really aren’t all that secret. Thanks to Shalini and the Ultimate Blog Challenge.


What is one thing few people know about you?

Where is your dream house located?

Have you ever colored, or thought about coloring, your hair an unusual color?


Leave a note in the comments and let me know what you think.






One Word for the Year


I don’t know who said, “when you focus on what you want, everything else falls away,” but I believe it’s true.

Which is why FOCUS is my word of the year for 2017. I learned about choosing a word of the year around 2012. I don’t always have a word. Sometimes nothing fits.

Last year I forgot about the word of the year. I didn’t even try to think of one. This year, thanks to, Laurel Regan at Alphabet Soup, I was reminded, and the word FOCUS immediately came to mind.

In the early months, after my husband’s death my focus was all about ME. I hurt. I was lonely. I was scared. I was lost. All of my focus was on me, and how bad my life was, how angry I was to be continuing this life journey without my life partner.

That was too tiring. It’s exhausting to be angry, sad, upset. All.The.Time.

Gradually, I began to turn my attention, and focus outward to others.

I joined Toastmasters, and met new people who supported me and encouraged me. Participated in events, including several speaking contests.  

I joined Quilts of Valor, and have presented several quilts to soldiers (of every service) who were willing to put their lives on the line for us.


I returned to writing and wrote two devotional type books using quilt stories. Was invited to write a short story for an anthology. Have started another collection of short stories as well as an historical novel.

This year I have several goals I want to reach. Goals that have been on my list for two or more years. This is the year they are completed so I can move on to other projects, and ideas. Take care of the old and move forward.

I do have some motivational plans to help with the goals. For example one of my goals is to drop some weight. Honestly, that’s been a resolution or goal for, forever. To help with that I’ve signed up for, and paid to walk in two 5K events.

The first one, The Stuart Hornet Hustle is sponsored by my town. The money raised goes to the graduating seniors who plan to attend college. Most everyone else will be running, but just starting and then finishing is a new experience for me.

The second one is the Oklahoma City Wicked Wine Run.  Both my younger sister and my daughter are signed up for this. Doing it with them, even at a much slower pace, will be a new and enjoyable experience.

FOCUS  Is not just for the races, and weight reduction. In so many areas of my life I need to pay attention. So this year my word is Focus.


Do you do a word of the year?

What word describes your 2016?

Do you have goals that have been on your list for multiple years?

This is post 8 for the Ultimate Blog Challenge.

Also linking up with, Alphabet Soup for the word of the year.




The Book of Education, Tracking Our Wealth of Knowledge

Raise your hand if you remember the board of education. I don’t mean the one made up of people who made rules and paid the bills for the school. This one was about twelve inches long and  five or six inches wide. Most had a handle carved on the end to make holding it easier.


Now, I’m not going to ask how you know about the board. Besides this isn’t that.

This is much easier.


This is about learning. Because learning is living. This is about keeping track of a tiny bit of the knowledge accumulated over a year, or month, or week. Time frame is optional.

I don’t know about you, but I sometimes (no definition on sometimes) forget the specifics of a lesson, whether something new is learned, or older knowledge is refreshed. Oh, I remember to put the information to use, sometimes.


However, my brain gets so jam-packed with information that some of the little nuggets get lost. Sometimes they’re just fun, interesting little facts or ideas.

  • Like a small rock is either a “keeper” or a “let ‘er lay.” Depending on the rock collector’s point of view.

Sometimes they are helpful pieces of information that need to not get lost.

  • How to use the gps on my phone, or the fact that my phone even has a gps.

Whether the education is about something serious and important, or fun, it’s nice to look back over the past week or month and be reminded of my education.


Which is how the Book of Education came to be. The only way for me to remember something I learn at the end of the month something I learned at the beginning is to have a reminder of some type. A small notebook works well.


Last year’s notebook has been misplaced and as soon as I recover it I’ll share some of my educational tidbits. For this year, I have a new Book of Education. Already it has a couple of entries, despite the fact that between a head cold, extreme cold weather, and snow, I haven’t been anywhere all week.

This week I have learned:

  • Chapstick applied to a nose raw from a cold will soothe it and help it heal.
  • Medicine really does work. After having the sniffles for a couple of days my son and daughter-in-law gave me some cold medicine. The next day I felt much better. Okay, so that one was more of a reminder.
  • When I tried writing outside yesterday I learned the ink doesn’t flow well when it’s cold.

My Book of Education for 2017 has begun. What do you think about a Book of Education? Do you have a better title? Please leave a comment.

How do you remember some of the lessons you learn through the year?

What is a memorable thing you learned last year?

What is something you would like to learn?

This is post 7 in the Ultimate Blog Challenge. Thanks for joining us.

Never To Old for Stuffed Animal Comfort – A Devotion

Day four of the Ultimate Blog Challenge. Whoo-hoo I’m on a roll. 

One of the goals is to post a devotion once a week. Wednesday is that day. The Bible verse comes from the King James version for two reasons: 1. It’s in public domain and 2. The language is beautiful.

2 Corinthians 1:3-4

Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.


Christmas came a mere three months after my husband’s death. Getting through the actual holiday wasn’t too bad. My children, and preparing for their visits kept me busy. I worked myself to the point of exhaustion, which made it easier to go to sleep.

Once the holiday was over, the kids had returned to their homes I began putting away the holiday decorations. I took each ornament off the tree and carefully packed it away. When I lifted the little bear down I couldn’t put him in the box.

I had bought the bear to be an ornament. However, in my “I’m a widow fog,” my proportion perception was off. While the bear wasn’t big, he was much too big to be an ornament. Ten inches. Oh my. Much too big for an ornament.


My solution had been to nestle him into the branches of the tree. It was the perfect place for him.

When the holiday ended, however, I struggled to pack him away with the other holiday decorations. After several minutes of thought, I opted to place him on my bed. That night, when I finally prepared for bed, he didn’t get set to the side as intended.Instead, he stayed in my hand as I crawled into bed.  

For the first time in months, I slept soundly all night with the bear in my arms providing comfort. I slept with him for several months before I began to set him to the side. Now, he sits on a shelf on my headboard watching over me as I sleep.


I realized the bear was God’s way of giving me tangible proof of His comforting presence. Because sometimes we just need something solid to hold.

Prayer; Thank you for giving comfort in a myriad of ways, using people, places, and things, even stuffed animals to help me stay connected.

Do you have something unusual that gives you comfort?

What is your favorite thing to do, hold, see, or hear, that calms and comforts you?

Do you have something from your past you cling to because it makes you smile?

Please leave a comment and share your thoughts.